Expats · English spoken · Home or hotel · 21+
Male escort for expat women in the Netherlands
You moved here for work, for a partner or for a new start. The job is going well, the Dutch are friendly enough – and still, building a private life in a new country takes years. I am Milan, an independent male escort. I meet expat women in English, at home or in a hotel, without an agency and without anyone in your circle needing to know.
Dating apps here move slowly and everybody seems to know everybody. With me you know beforehand exactly what you get.
Why expat women write to me
The reasons are rarely only about sex. These are the things expat women tell me most:
A small expat bubble
In Amstelveen, The Hague or Eindhoven the international community is small. A date from an app can turn out to be your colleague’s neighbour.
Dutch dating is different
Direct, slow, often split the bill. Some women simply want an evening where someone else takes the lead.
Touch after a long time
After a move or a breakup, months can pass without anyone touching you. That matters more than people admit.
No future to manage
No expectations, no “what are we”, no messages next week. Just an evening agreed beforehand.
How it works
- Message me in English. The city, a day and roughly what you have in mind is enough
- We agree everything first – time, duration, rate, place and boundaries
- At your home or a hotel. At home we agree how I arrive so the neighbours see a visitor, nothing more
- You set the pace. Talking first is normal. You can stop at any moment, without explaining
- Afterwards I do not contact you unless you write first
Many women ask me first whether this is even allowed here. Between consenting adults it is, and I explain exactly how in my page on the law in the Netherlands. If it is your very first time, take your time: I wrote down how a first meeting with me usually goes, so nothing comes as a surprise.
Expat cities I visit
I live between Brabant and Utrecht and travel throughout the Netherlands.
Amsterdam and Amstelveen
The largest expat community. See male escort Amsterdam.
The Hague and Leiden
Embassies, international organisations and universities. See male escort The Hague.
Eindhoven
Close to where I live. See male escort Eindhoven.
Utrecht and Rotterdam
Many expat women I meet live in or around Utrecht or Rotterdam, and I come to both cities without any fuss.
For Zeeland, Friesland, Groningen and Drenthe, travel costs apply plus a minimum booking (4 hours for Groningen).
Not only one kind of evening
Some expat women want the boyfriend experience: dinner, holding hands, staying the night. Others want an erotic massage or simply to be held. In a sexless marriage abroad, the loneliness can be even bigger. Whatever it is, we talk about it first.
What does it cost?
All-in for the time you reserve. No agency fee, no travel fee within the Netherlands (except Zeeland, Friesland, Groningen and Drenthe).
| Duration | Rate | When it fits |
|---|---|---|
| 1 hour | €120 | A first meeting |
| 2 hours | €200 | Most chosen |
| 3 hours | €300 | Time to talk first |
| 4 hours | €400 | Dinner and a long evening |
| Overnight | €600 | Only when agreed beforehand |
No travel fee within the Netherlands for ordinary bookings and no surcharge for couples. For Zeeland, Friesland, Groningen and Drenthe, travel costs apply plus a minimum booking (4 hours for Groningen). Please cancel at least 6 hours in advance; payment preferably in cash for discretion, Tikkie is also fine. Full overview: male escort rates in the Netherlands.
Safety, discretion and who you are meeting
- Independent: no agency, no operator. The man you message is the man who arrives
- Escorting is my side job since 2023, alongside my other work – I take on a limited number of bookings
- Safe sex is standard and I get tested for STIs regularly
- Adults only: I meet women and couples aged 21 and over
- Nothing is required because the clock is running. You can stop at any moment, without explaining
- No photos of you, no follow-up messages unless you write first
- Cancelling: please let me know at least 6 hours in advance
- Payment: preferably cash for discretion; a Tikkie is also fine
Is this legal here? Between consenting adults, yes – read is hiring a gigolo legal in the Netherlands. First time? Read first time hiring a male escort.
About Milan, the author of this page
Independent male escort · since 2023, alongside other work
Last updated: 16 October 2026
I am Milan, an independent male escort for women and couples aged 21+. I live between Brabant and Utrecht and travel throughout the Netherlands. You arrange everything with me directly on WhatsApp: 06-31680408 (+31 6 31680408).
- Heard under my own name in the De Telegraaf podcast (in Dutch)
- Guest article on Merle Hebing about a sexless marriage and hiring a high-class gigolo (in Dutch)
- 4.7/5 on Kinky.nl (8 public reviews) – see the review page
- More about me: who is Milan (Dutch)
More for English-speaking visitors
Questions expat women ask
Do you speak English?
Yes, fluently enough for the whole evening. My German is limited to a few basic words.
Can you come to my home?
Yes. We agree on the time and how I arrive, so it looks like an ordinary visit.
What does it cost?
€120 for one hour, €200 for two, €300 for three, €400 for four and €600 overnight agreed in advance. No travel fee within the Netherlands (except Zeeland, Friesland, Groningen and Drenthe).
Is it legal for me as a foreigner?
Paid sex between consenting adults is legal in the Netherlands, for residents and visitors alike.
Is it safe?
I am independent, safe sex is standard and I get tested for STIs regularly. I only meet women and couples aged 21+.
Will anyone find out?
No photos of you and no messages afterwards unless you write first. Payment is preferably in cash for discretion.
How do I book?
WhatsApp +31 6 31680408 with your city and a day. A message is not a booking.
What is your cancellation policy?
Please cancel at least 6 hours in advance via WhatsApp. Plans change – a short message is enough.
How do I pay?
Preferably in cash at the start of our meeting, because that is the most discreet. A Tikkie (Dutch payment request) is also fine.
Expats · English spoken · Home or hotel · 21+
Your city and a day are enough
Write “Hi, The Hague, Friday evening”. I answer myself, in English.
21+. Independent. Regularly STI-tested. WhatsApp 06-31680408. A message is not a booking.